Disordered eating and body image concerns are rising, especially among teens. At Active & Connected Family Therapy, we believe it’s essential to understand how our culture shapes the way kids think about their bodies—and how parents can intervene in thoughtful, healthy ways.
The Cultural Pressure Cooker
From Instagram feeds filled with “perfect” bodies to weight-loss trends like intermittent fasting or “clean eating,” today’s teens are bombarded with messages that link thinness or “fitspiration” to happiness, success, and even social belonging. But these messages can create anxiety, distort self-image, and—most dangerously—trigger disordered eating patterns.
Many of us grew up hearing comments about weight or “good” vs. “bad” foods, often passed down unintentionally across generations. These messages are deeply embedded in our culture, and without meaning to, parents can repeat them in their own homes. For example, labeling food as “healthy” or “junk” may reinforce a restrictive mindset in kids. The better alternative? Teaching balance and tuning into your body’s cues.
The Role of Social Media
Social media algorithms can magnify body image struggles. A teen who clicks on one diet-related post may soon be inundated with videos promoting weight loss, restrictive eating, and unrealistic fitness goals. The more they see it, the more they think: This is what I should look like.
What’s more, many parents mistakenly assume their teen’s feed resembles their own. But the content is curated uniquely for each user. Teens may be constantly exposed to idealized body types—bodies that don’t reflect natural diversity in shape, size, or development.
Helping Teens Navigate the Noise
So, what can parents do to support their children in a world that often promotes self-criticism over self-compassion?
- Own Your Influence: Reflect on your own language around bodies and food. Avoid comments like “I need to lose weight” or “That’s bad for you.”
- De-label Food: Instead of separating foods into “good” and “bad,” treat all foods as part of a balanced diet.
- Celebrate All Body Changes: Kids’ bodies are supposed to change. Avoid panic or shame when your child’s body evolves. This is especially important across kids’ different growth stages where they require adequate nutrition to grow.
- Address the Algorithm: Talk with your child about how their social media feeds can distort their perceptions of what is normal and healthy.
- Open the Conversation: Ask your teen questions like, “What kind of content do you see on Instagram?”
- Don’t Assume the Whole Picture: Trends in clothing or appearance don’t always reflect confidence or positivity.
Let Your Teen Be the Expert
Teens are experts in their own culture. By letting them educate you, you show respect and openness. Then, gently offer your own insights—not as corrections, but as part of a conversation. Ask, “What do you think this message is really saying?”
Start Small, Stay Present
You don’t have to overhaul your household overnight. Small changes—like modeling balance, not restricting foods, and talking openly about body changes—add up. And remember, we’re all learning how to move forward in a culture that hasn’t always supported mental or physical well-being.
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